It is not what is lost that hurts the most, It is the thing that takes its place -

- Jerome Kugan (The Myth of Displacement)*

I say the things that try to take the place of what is lost - yet fail to do so, or even come close  -  are what hurt the most. They bring back memories…..which often are more legend than reality - the perfect bloke he never was, the doting girl she never would have been, the manipulating mofo everyone but you could see…..

I say Memories are like wounds kept raw by the rub of a blunted saw.

-  Sigh

\* From the poem “The Myth of Displacement” from Dance the Guns to Silence - Nii Ayikwei Parkes and Kadija Sesay (Eds)