My lazy Saturday - the slightly chillier air put paid to any pretensions of activity I had planned for the day - ended being defined by three conversations. In all honesty, two were conversations I could have done without, but I ended up caught up in them anyways.
I wake up to see an offline message from my Q, my friend of just under a week. She’s a Geek’s Geek complete with geeky glasses and loads of tech speech. We end up talking about everything and nothing for the better part of three hours. In a sense it feels like de ja vu all over again - the easy conversation, shared interests and comfort even in silence were hallmarks of the early days of my bonding with EJ. Probably still early days, but there does seem to be a real opportunity for something to develop here.
Mid-way through that conversation, I get a phone call from TheB, my nearly girl from 2009. I suspect we’ve come a long way towards resolving the big issues from our past dalliance. It is the final 10% that holds us back I think. Post 2009, I had begun a crash program of radical decoupling surgery, one that I have been unable to completely reverse. Our conversation was about the normal, mundane stuff of life - wishing we could win the lottery, pricky office mates, travel plans and all such like. Sadly, this is one connection that seems destined to peter out in the cold, dark soot from what might have been a raging, passionate inferno.
Just before midnight my time, the final conversation with EJ occurred. It’s the first time we’re speaking since August 2011, and I suspect there are still a few scabs to rake over. It was her birthday a few days ago, and thanks to a calendar reminder I did remember to send an Amazon Gift card her way this time (which was more than I ever did when we were an item). Again our conversation ebbed and flowed - her bookwork, a mini birthday party, returning to work in Nigeria, our mutual friends, my lack of impetus on the marriage front and the like. I suppose there was some awkwardness at first, but by the end of the conversation we were winging it - not quite flowing as before, but with a lot less hesitancy.
I suppose Q might be the future, EJ definitely is the past, TheB just might be the recurring decimal.