Ninety one days into the new year, I do not appear to have made any significant progress on the one thing on my 2012 to do list which my mother is most interested in - finding myself a potential wife. Following on a review from late last year, I decided a multi-pronged approach would work best - fusing online dating with physical meet ups and the occasional introduction from mutual friends. Arguably, there have been opportunities with potential, even though the bulk of them have not been. In any case here goes the journey so far:

  1. Q: Q’s a Geek’s Geek, works in the IT industry and is uncannily similar to EJ - same secondary school in Nigeria,   lives in the same state, grew up on the Grail Message and has accepted it’s New Age-ish worldview implications. She and I have an easy understanding, and our conversations have extended into the two hour time space already. Real potential here if we can work out the significant worldview issues involved.
  2. AJ: At first I had high hopes for AJ - she lived a few hundred miles south of Berwick and was a great conversationist. After what seemed like a couple of weeks of going full stam ahead where it felt like we had compatible intentions we somehow had the talk in which she essentially said she wasn’t looking for something serious at the moment. I tried to get her to Skype, but she somehow managed to avoid that… We’ve drifted apart since then - the odd what’s app conversation apart, we’re barely in contact. I did get matched with someone on eHarmony a few days ago from the same city as she and the same name.. Curious one here - perhaps she’s on the lookout for something, not just with a bloke like me.
  3. Liz: Liz is as English as they come, even if she does have Nigerian connections - a couple of close friends and family who have worked in the Oil industry in Lagos and Port Harcourt. It was my first experience of going inter-racial, and to be honest I was perhaps willing to give it a shot, except for the fact that she was super secretive - it took me almost a full month to get a picture and the revelation that she was white. Again, this is one of those which has petered out, it is unlikely that I’ll be making any efforts to get this back online.
  4. Ify: Ify’s the twin sister of a friend and to be honest I’d never really considered her as an option. She’s quite the churchy girly, and given my worldview vacillations, a gung-ho spirified young woman has not really been the sort to catch my eye. A lengthy chat at the church youth group’s breakfast meetup made me see her in a new light. She’s definitely a good friend to have around - unsure if anything might develop further from that one.
  5. elC: elC and I have been friends from the summer of ‘09 (In retrospect, 2009 seems to have been a watershed year for me and the ‘women in my life). In theory, she checks all the boxes - Christian worldview, she and I share a good connection and all that. The one snag is again for lack of clarity, I do not know for sure if she sees ‘us’ as an option or merely as the cool, level headed guy down the road. Again, clarity is required here.
  6. TheB: Despite our ups and down, TheB remains a veritable option, perhaps more so because we’ve never actually had a face to face, no holds barred, lets-sort-ourselves out chat ever. Sometime over the next few months, I do have to have that chat and know for sure one way or the other.