To the Year of Living Intentionally, or dangerously…
Between standing on the cusp of the 34th birthday, and getting a diagnosis of borderline LVH, I have come very close to freaking out more than a few times over the last few weeks. More so perhaps because in stumbling on an early copy of the 5 year plan - written back in the day when I was an excitable 26 year old with the dream job and the dream girl, and all the important people in my life the small matter of a six hour road trip away - just how far off target in quite a few categories I still am was made very clear.
That prompted the Big Question - What if I committed to a year of changing and improving everyday rather than allowing life just happen to me? What if I identified 12 things/ focus areas to work through in my 34th year, such that by conscious change and deliberate action by the time the clocks chime in the start of year 35, I am significantly closer to closing out all the actions on that 5 year plan of antiquity – and am a much better person to boot?
There will be benefits to the year of living intentionally. For one, at the end of the year, if I do this right, I will be in a much better place spiritually, socially/ relationally and career wise. Additionally, seeing through a focused program for an entire year will do a lot for my personal confidence and self-esteem and provide opportunities to develop a practice of personal discipline.
Hillsong Conference Europe was a great launchpad – messages from Brian Houston, Judah Smith and Louie Giglio all included a let-go-and-trust-God theme, something my over-analytical brain has historically found hard to do.
Sooo.. On to the plan – and the key deliverables for the year.
- Develop a daily practice of prayer, bible study and meditation
- Complete a mental reboot…
- Develop a practice of healthy eating and living
- Use the gym/ exercise thrice a week; aim to weigh 82kg
- Cut out cokes and sodas of all sorts, replace with water and green tea
- Improve diet - High potassium, low sodium food, more vegetables, lower calories
- Meet, chase and date the one, end up in a position to be able to marry or at least commit fully to someone in a year’s time.
- Resolve my relationships with my parents - a wife and children deserve a better connection with my wider family
- Lay down roots in the UK
- Get a UK driver’s license
- Buy a house
- Learn something new each day
- Post the learnings/ ideas to Instagram, Flickr or a blog;
- Practice the discipline of journaling and sharing.
- Close out outstanding Professional Development actions – NACE Snr Corrosion Technologist Certs & API 571/580.
- Develop physical maturity
- Develop critical DIY skills
- Learn to swim
- Develop a properly balanced worldview (and clearly articulate them) in at least three key dimensions – faith, social justice, politics,
- Write up a 2500 word essay on the key facets of my worldview - will need to decide on what key aspects to focus on.
- Develop moral maturity – shut down all my activities which may not stand proper scrutiny.
- Improve relational skills
- Learn to engage people in crowds and as individuals,
- Speak up more in public at work, and in personal relationships.
- Grow into a leadership role of some sort in church (Media & Tech?)
- Complete Brett Blumenthal’s 52 small changes: One Year to a Happier, Healthier You.
For a rallying cry, I have to turn to the words of Francis Chan from his Passion 2013 message, God Is Faithful:
I want to know that I am battling and doing something with my life… There’s actually the joy of a soldier, walking out of a battle all bloodied and cut up because he’s went and did something
Currently overdosing and bobbing my head to: Dangerous - Group One Crew.
Resources
- The Marks of Real Manhood – Al Mohler (Part 1, Part 2)
- The New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating – Andy Stanley
- A Guy’s Guide to Marrying Well – Boundless
- The secret to changing habits – Lifehacker