Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci **
The Premise: We act out sexually when our inner child, scarred and taught to cope during childhood, is activated. Acting out is subconscious to some extent. To break the cycle, we need to step in and enforce a time out so our rational thining side can assert itself. Nine inner child types are explored: the bored, the unnoticed, the un-affirmed, the emotionally voided, the controlling, the entitled, the inferior/weak, the stressed and the sexually stimulated. Each description follows a similar format, a discussion of how this type manifests in the adult, likely triggers during childhood and how it triggers uncontrolled sexual behaviour.
It’s all well and good understanding one’s state but the real value is in finding a way out for which a few key actions are identified:
- Identify your core emotional triggers
- Recognize negative events, evaluate them against the core emotional triggers identified and learn to become mindful
- Recognize the collision of past and present in driving your current behaviours
- Process the kid’s emotional pain
- Employ rational thinking, take control.
Favourite Quote (albeit borrowed from another author):
The two enemies of human happiness are pain and boredom - Arthur Schopenhauer
Rating 4/5